Therapy for Anxiety & People-Pleasing

Pretending everything’s fine isn’t working anymore

Keeping other people happy is exhausting.

No wonder you’re anxious and on edge all the time.

You’ve spent so much time and energy trying to make other people happy.

You don’t want to become a selfish jerk, but thoughts of “self-care” makes your insides tighten up. Isn’t that selfish, spending time on yourself? 

It’s hard to relax or feel good about yourself, cause no matter how much you work, there’s always more to do. No matter how much you try, it’s never good enough. 

You do a pretty good job hiding your struggles, and most people don’t know you’re not ok. What they can’t see is that you struggle to turn off the racing thoughts at night as you lie in bed. Or the paralyzing self-doubt that makes you feel frozen when you try to work on projects that you love. 


I know I’m a bad-ass capable person, so why can’t I finish this? you wonder.


Sometimes you dream of running away and escaping from all the responsibilities of your life. And you feel shitty about wanting a break. 

So you power through, but the resentment grows.

Maybe you start to lie to “keep the peace” or get some relief. 

You agree to go to restaurants you don’t like - why bother arguing? 

People give you weird gifts - no one knows what you actually like. 

You overcommit and overpromise - at work and in your personal life - cause you can’t say “no”

You hate the tension between living into your values and meeting expectations. 

You struggle to really feel alive at work and in relationships. You feel burnt out, crispy, and criticize yourself for not doing better. 

And in all this, you worry you’ll never be enough, especially if you’re yourself. Whoever that is. 

Here’s the thing: anxiety and people-pleasing are still good parts of you.

Both tend to get a bad rap, but they make sense as survival strategies when you’re faced with chaos or uncertainty, when love is conditional, and when it’s not safe to say “no”.

So rather than throw them out, let’s integrate their wisdom.

I’ll help you turn toward the critical, exhausted and scared parts of you with curiosity and compassion so that you can heal from old hurts, let go of painful beliefs and expectations, and feel calm, confident, and like yourself again.

Let’s talk!

Schedule a free 20-minute consultation to see if we’re a good fit.