Affirming Couples & Relationship Therapy
Helping partners navigate conflict and rebuild intimacy
supporting queer, non-monogamous, monogamous and straight partners
pre-marital counseling available
Are you and your partner(s) struggling with conflict avoidance?
Maybe you find it hard to express your needs, desires and emotions within your relationship? Seemingly small issues might quickly blow up, leaving you feeling flooded, confused, and hurt.
Your struggles may include:
Coming out to family and friends - maybe as queer, non-monogamous, non-religious, or living together
Balancing time together vs time apart
Physical or emotional intimacy
Differences in communication styles & how you express emotions
Differences in life goals or dreams (whether to have kids, where you live, etc)
Getting ready (or deciding whether) to move in together or get married
Tiptoeing around conflict and trying to keep your partner happy by holding back your own feelings might be creating resentment, numbness, or loneliness.
As much as you love your partner(s) and want to make it work, you might be wondering (and worrying) if healing the relationship is even possible.
On top of this, if you’re queer, you might worry that if you ask for help you’ll be told that your queerness is the problem. (Yikes!)
Let me be clear:
queerness is not the problem.
The problem is the problem.
In fact, your queerness opens up a beautiful opportunity for you to create a relationship based on your unique values, strengths and passions, rather than trying to fit yourselves into a cookie-cutter relationship.
(And if you’re not queer, fear not! Affirming couples therapy can still help you challenge harmful stereotypes and build an authentic, mutually-enjoyable relationship.)
My approach to relationship therapy centers around helping you feel steady, grounded and empowered to speak your truths and hear each others’.
I’ll help you navigate difficult conversations, address conflict, and build deep understanding and connection.
Imagine being able to relax with your partner(s), knowing that you understand and support each other's dreams - even if they’re different. You look forward to spending time together, as well as enjoying time by yourself and with others.
There aren’t looming elephants in the room anymore. When disagreements come up (and they actually come up!), you’re able to hold steady and discuss your differences, without blowing up or checking out.
Compromising and “agreeing to disagree” are just that, rather than giving up. In fact, you actually feel closer after conflict, and see it as an opportunity to more deeply understand each other. You feel compassion and empathy for your partner(s).
You don’t have to navigate this journey alone.
Together, let’s create a brave space where all of you can show up as your full self to create the relationship you long for.
Let’s talk!
Schedule a free 20-minute consultation to see if we’re a good fit.