How to say “No” without being rude
Are you wanting to say “No” to someone but worry you’ll come off as rude? Here are 13 ways to say “No” that are short, sweet, and to the point, so that you can stay in your integrity without veering into apologizing all over yourself or becoming a jerk.
Declining an offer or invitation
“Unfortunately, that time won’t work for me.”
“Thank you for the invitation, but I’m going to pass this time. Let me know if you do this again!”
“Sounds fun, but I won’t be able to make it.” (Only say it sounds fun if you mean it!)
“That’s so generous of you, but no, thank you.”
“No thank you, that’s not really my style.”
“No, thank you.”
Declining a request…
7. “I won’t be able to help you this weekend.”
8. “I can’t help you move on Friday, but I can help Saturday from 2-4 pm. Would you like help then?” (Only offer an alternative if you actually want to and have the capacity.)
9. “No, I can’t take on that project.”
10. “I don’t have time for that (now, or coming up.)”
Intrusive questions…
11. “I don’t want to talk about that.”
12. “That’s a personal question that I don’t want to talk about.”
And the simplest…
13. “No.” (Yup, this is a complete sentence!)
Bonus tips:
Keep a neutral tone. This means not overly apologetic (doormat-y) OR overly firm (harsh).
Keep it clear. Don’t let your “No” get lost in a ramble.
Keep it short. 1-2 short sentences are often enough.
Practice! Practicing saying no - out loud or in writing - will help you feel more confident saying “No” in real life.
And remember, saying “No” is NOT inherently rude.
Giving an honest “No” allows you to give an honest “Yes” and build trust with those around you.
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